Love is a serious business and its important we note that for you to get the right person, you must have the right attitude and right mindset.You know the word love has become so adulterated that any cat and dog can use it without knowing what it even means.
LOVE IS BLIND
The two culprits responsible for making love blind are:
Without these two, there’s no love
Most of us find it very difficult to find true love because of many things, but majorly because of one thing…
Now, don’t get me wrong, I didn’t say it is wrong to have expectations before launching into a relationship, what I’m saying is that when we are not flexible enough to allow our hearts lead us, we tend to miss the right partner for us.
We all will agree that most of the times the eat of things are not always rapped in expensive and golden packaging bags…
As precious as Gold is, it is always found under the ground, alongside other messy and dirty objects…
It’s splendid to have a draft of the perfect man or the perfect woman, but most of the times, those things you wrote down that you need in a spouse or a partner are mostly ‘WANTS‘ and not ‘NEEDS‘.
In as much as a car is good, it is a want and not a need. Needs are those things you can’t do without, while wants are those things you desire for your momentary satisfaction, they may be lawful but not expedient.
So the fist step to knowing the right partner is by having the right mindset, your mindset is what will coordinate your attitude when your path eventually crosses that of your prince charming.If you figure it and fix it in your mind that what you need above all is a man that will love, cherish, and care for you, you’ll tune your heart away from looking for ‘Tall, fair, huge, etc. So, to identify if he or she is the right partner, you’ll have to find out if he or she truly loves you.
Now here comes the Great Deal
HOW DO I KNOW IF HE/SHE LOVES ME ?
1). He will be proud of you:
Ladies, forget all this junk stories some guys tell you, if a guy truly loves you, he’ll be proud of you.
They should be able to show you to those that really matters in their life. Some guys will tell you “I don’t like doing public things, you know I have many enemies. Bla bla bla”
Okay let’s say he has enemies… What of his mentor?, what of his mother, his siblings, his father?…
Truth be told, the major reason why he has not shown you out is because he’s still having a double mind, he’s not sure that you’re the one, so he does not want to show you out so that the other ladies that he’s keeping on the waiting list won’t run away.
To even take you out for an outing is an issue, he does not want people to see the both of you in public, my sister, you’re not the only one, you have co-wives.
2). They Trust You
This is pretty much the biggest, most important one.
Trust means you genuinely trust the other person and don’t feel the need to go through their belongings, constantly speculate on what they’re doing or not doing and open up their heart to you. So if he tells you private things about himself, doesn’t feel the need to go through your phone and constantly investigate every little thing you do… it most likely means he trusts you.
Trust is about letting someone in completely, being the person they can confide in when the rest of the world seems scary or overwhelming. If he comes to you when he’s sad, frustrated or overwhelmed, it’s another MAJOR sign he trusts you.
And for Men, they only talk to women they trust about deep, private, sensitive issues.
And remember: trust is the most important building block for love – and a huge sign he’s into you. It’s important that you return the favor, and trust him.
You’re in a relationship and you know virtually nothing about your partner, and anytime you bring up issues relating to his past he/she will bring up one flemzy excuse…
Check well, they don’t trust you, and without trust there’s no LOVE.
3). He should be obsessed with wanting to make you become better, he won’t be scared or feel insecure when you’re making progress and achieving new heights
The man you should be afraid of is the man that is intimidated by your success and progress.
4) They Ask For Your Input on Decisions
You know how it would be weird if your partner decided to just wake up and buy a house without talking to you?
Or if they decided to move to a different city for a few months because they wanted to try it out there?
Yeah, that would be weird. That would be really inconsiderate of them, and a huge sign that they probably aren’t in love with you.
But if they think of you first when they’re faced with a big decision, if they decide to include you and listen to your counsel when they’re deciding, well, that’s a huge sign they are in love with you.
5). He should be passionate about you
Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose – don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Especially for the married people…
6). He won’t compare you with his ex
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
“Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Even if he wants to talk about his ex, it will be to praise you and make you feel good about your efforts in the relationship.
They Give You Lots of Affection (And I’m not talking about sex.)
Affection doesn’t HAVE to be about sex. In fact, a lot of couples engage in a lot of sex that doesn’t have much affection in it at all. Sex where he doesn’t look into your eyes or make you feel close and connected to him… that’s not affection. Sex where you don’t feel present and heard, cared for and loved… that’s not affectionate sex.
Affectionate sex can be one of the most intense, bonding experiences a man and a woman can have. But beyond sex, what’s affection?
I’m talking about cuddling, looking into each other’s eyes and letting the world melting away. I’m talking about him putting his arm around you, touching the small of your back and looking you in the eyes with that certain “look” you literally cannot get enough of.
You’d be shocked to know what a MAJOR thing it is for a guy to TRULY be affectionate with a woman. This shows he’s most likely in love with you if he can’t get enough of being close, intimate and connected with you. Honesty, good affection, physical closeness, and intimacy go a long way in strengthening a relationship and helping love grow.
HOW TO KNOW IF SHE LOVES YOU
A woman’s love is nurturing, divine, and deep. When a woman loves, she does so with the breath of her existence and the strength of her mind. No other love rivals hers. That is why those who are blessed with such love and did not hesitate to appreciate it, are on top of their worlds and can surmount any mountain as long as the fire of their woman’s love is their inspiration.
Though questions about the genuineness of a woman’s professed love nowadays, are on the lips of most men, especially with the rising trend of money and other material things being the better-loved items than men, real love from a woman does exist, and there are ways to have a feel of what it is like.
1). Shes willing to be the best of who she is to make you happy
2) She is after your welfare.
3). She is not ashamed of you
4). Shes not afraid to build her future with you
5 She gets you gifts at random, and surprises you.
6). She doesn’t trade you for any other person.
7). No matter how much headaches you give her, she could not keep herself from being kind to you. Even if she gets mad at you for being stubborn, at the end of the day she would soften up to ask how you have been. She is always patient with you, because she chooses to see your good side.
No one is perfect, manage your man and his mistakes and gradually turn him to what you desire
8). She stays with you in your darkest times.
During discouraging times, your girlfriend is always there to boost your self-esteem. She believes that you are a great person and you have a lot of capabilities. She will not leave you just because you are a mess. She will help you see your worth again and get back to your feet. She does not leave because her love for you is through thick and thin.
A woman who loves you will do everything to care for her man. Being a boyfriend who knows his girl, for sure you can feel how she truly feels for you. It is only you who can tell if your partner is serious in the love she shows you. If you can feel her sincerity in everything she does for you, then there is a big possibility that what she has for you is true love.
Q & A
God bless you boss for sharing this powerful presentation with us….
My question is what should you do when a lady truly loves you but you don’t feel same for her?
Earlier on u said “let your heart lead you to find your partner” but my heart has failed me before. So I don’t trust it again
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